Last week, with at least three months still left in my pregnancy......I was asked if I was having twins. I wait for it every pregnancy because someone always asks me and it makes me feel really great.
I was at the grocery store and the checker came up to me and said, "Is that baby coming soon?" And I answered her, "Oh no. I have quite a bit left." She said, "End of December?" And I said, "No, end of February." The look on her face was like sheer horror and she said, "Is there just one in there?" I wanted to slap her but repressed my Alli McBeal fantasy and said, "There better be." Needless to say I think she had nightmares that night from the way she was acting. And I love the question : Is there just on in there? Like I am a storage bucket or something.
The worst experience I had with this was when I was pregnant with Lilly. In the morning I was asked if I was having twins, granted I was almost 9 months pregnant and HUGE (as I usually am). However, it wasn't that experience that left me in tears that day. It was later....IN THE SAME DAY.....when I was chatting with a mom at a gymnastics class Joselyn was in. I mentioned having my third girl and she looked at me and in all honesty said, "OH! I didn't know you were pregnant!"...............WHAT?! How can I look like I am having twins and someone not obviously no I am pregnant in the same day. How FAT did she think I was?!
And I vividly remember when I was pregnant with Maddy that one of Dustin's friends told him, albeit discreetly so that I could overhear, that I sure looked "sturdy". And no I haven't forgotten it in the ten years since then, just a testament to the power of words. Is that not the most rude thing ever? I was so devastated! It is hard enough to be pregnant and watch your body change and have no control over it. And it is hard enough to not be blessed to be one of those "cute" pregnant women. You know the ones where you can't tell they are pregnant until they turn to the side? Yeah NOT ME! I just wish that people could hide their shock and awe better and keep their mouths shut! (I am having a day .....alright maybe a pregnancy.......if you can't tell)
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I got asked at 6 months with Kai what I was still doing at church cause I looked ready to pop. Nice. Another lady asked me if I wanted to know the sexes of my children cause she was so sure I was having twins.
In PE my freshman year, my teacher told us she could say 50 wonderful things about us and one negative and we would all forget the 50 and remember that one.
Nothing is more beautiful than a pregnant woman, no matter how many she may be carrying ;) (but more than 3 is a little freaky looking).
I had just had Kenna and was in public somewhere and she was in her car seat and I was holding it. I saw someone I knew and she came up and asked me "Haven't you had that baby yet?! When are you due?" I wanted to slap her. I said "She's right here, what is wrong with you?!" I wasn't very nice, hormones were flowing!
You are beautiful!!!! Forget those idiots!!
I totally understand, when I was 5 months pregnant with creighton someone said "you look like you're ready to deliver!". And Jason told me last time I was pregnant "Man youre huge!" Nice husband. But the best was when I was in Sams club and sample lady said "oh look, you've got another one on the way!" And did I mention that I wasnt even pregnant. People can be so incredibly stupid. Don't worry, you are hot and they will burn in hades.
What is wrong with people!!! WHat stupid women seriously says that to other women! My friend who is pregnant just got asked if she was having twin also, honestly do they not hear what is coming out of their mouths!!! I can not believe someone said you were "sturdy" I hope that you spit in there food, if they were eating at your house:)
Oh, Jess, I am so sorry that anyone would say any of those thing to you or about you. I remember a friend telling me how when she was eight years old her dad, in all loving jokingness, mentioned that she looked kind of like a donkey. She then talked about all of the times - times when you are supposed to feel your most beautiful (like her wedding day) - and those words rang through her ears as she looked in the mirror. Words can be so scary. I am so, so sorry.
As a side note - I still think, and have always thought, from the very first time I saw you, that you are one of the most naturally beautiful women I know. You are so statuesque with beautiful curves and hair and height. Just think - only three months left!!!! Hang in there, lady. (I'm done rambling now, I hope.) ;>
I know how you feel Jessica - I'm one of those that gets pregnant all over, not just in the stomach. My favorite is in the past when I've been asked when I'm due and I'm NOT pregnant -- talk about a self esteem boost.
And I agree - hurtful words never go away, that's why we all still remember these horror stories!
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