Friday, January 16, 2009

I love Lilly

I seem to be in a funk with my smallest daughter. As I have posted before she is definitely my most difficulty child so far. With that being said though I know that I have to take responsibility for a percentage of my two year old's misbehaving and reactions. SO I am trying a new tactic. My inner dialogue to myself isn't always the most positive when it comes to Lilly. She frustrates me, she makes me angry often, and more than once a day I feel like a failure when it comes to her. So I am changing my inner dialogue. Instead of thinking how naughty she is and just waiting for the explosions, I am going to tell myself how much I love her and special she is.
Now it isn't that I don't feel this way, it is just that sometimes she makes it hard for me recognize these feelings about her! So here are a few cute little things that Lilly has done lately that make me love her.
Today when Dustin was leaving for work. She said to him, "Please don't go to work today." And Dustin replied, "Daddy has to go to work. But I will be home later tonight". To which Lilly responded, "But your my father......". Apparently she repeated this over and over.

Later this morning I was sitting with her at the table while she finished her breakfast and she looked at me and said, "Your so beautiful mom". Seriously I don't know why a two year old saying this makes me stand a little taller but it works!

She is always so excited to see me in the mornings and after nap time. She rushes to me with a hug and yells, "Good Morning mom"!

When she can't go to sleep for her nap time or bedtime she sits in her crib and sings and sings and sings.....at the top of her lungs. I think the neighbors can hear her! But it is about the cutest thing I have ever heard. She can also sing every princess song. Which is another thing I love about her! And she always tacks on the darth vader theme song at the end which makes me laugh because that is our little nickname for her. She really is a lot like darth vader in this household.

She loves dresses, and would prefer to wear a dress any day of the week. And she loves loves loves make-up. I hope she totally gets this from me because I love dresses and make-up too.

She loves to shop with me (except when she is tired). She is always so sad when we are heading home. She constantly asks me in the car, "We are going to one more store mom?".

Every night, probably to get out of going to bed, she says , "I want to talk about Jesus!". Okay it totally works because how can you turn down that proposal?
She loves to pull all the couch cushions off the couch. I don't like this much as it means I have to put them all back on. But she pulls them off and then jumps off the couch into all the pillows yelling "CANNONBALL!". She absolutely loves it. The other day I asked her not to pull the pillows off and she said to me, "It's my pillow wonderland mom". Where she got that I have no idea.

Okay, these are just a few things off the top of my head that have made me love little Lilly and that make me look at her during the day and want to kiss her instead of put her in a time-out (even though she still needs those too). I am going to do a post about some of the things I love about Maddy and Josey next, I think it is a good exercise.
I do love you my silly Lilly. Your like a little crackling fire. And while it seems that this spirit is a little hard to manage in a two year old I am excited to see what this drive and spirit brings to the rest of your life. You teach me things everyday as I hope I do for you as well.

7 comments:

Sarah said...

My kids are completely different and so I have to approach both differently instead of comparing them (though no one means to). You have to love them as individuals. It's like they are training us.

Very cute Lilly! She's a sweetie!

SMDStudio said...

Very, very sweet.

Darrell and Alissa said...

That is a really good idea. I remember when Lexi was 2 (and i thought she was so difficult) telling her as i rocked her hwo special she was and listing all the things she did that day that made me smile. I did it each night and it took maybe 5 minutes- but it made both of us feel much better. I would love to do it with Carly- BUT THE KID WON"T SIT STILL!! It's got to be the 3rd daughter! So funny, so cute, so much energy, so mind boggling!! But we do love them!

Rob, Ann, Ava, and Brooklyn said...

What a great post! We love you Lilly!

JasonDebbie said...

I'm going to try that with kaitlyn, I have the same problem with her, i'm just waiting for her to do something bad all the time. I'll try your love tactic.

Alli said...

she says the cutest things! i love it.

Cami said...

I was meaning to ask you if you still had our Snow White outfit! haha! And now I know the answer to that....I'll have to get that back from you sometime. Payton was asking where that went.